{"id":4084,"date":"2018-08-21T07:25:40","date_gmt":"2018-08-21T07:25:40","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/blackvelvetseductions.com\/?p=4084"},"modified":"2020-03-22T07:27:01","modified_gmt":"2020-03-22T07:27:01","slug":"writing-a-good-sex-scene","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/blackvelvetseductions.com\/?p=4084","title":{"rendered":"WRITING A GOOD SEX SCENE."},"content":{"rendered":"

I may have irritated or upset some male authors with Monday\u2019s blog, that was not my intention.\u00a0 If I did please accept my apologies.\u00a0 I was simply expressing my views about some male writers.\u00a0 Some men write great sex scenes as I did say in my original blog.\u00a0 I took a couple of days off to think about what I had said and with the support of the boss Ric, this was the intended follow up to the Monday blog.<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

I would like to share my thoughts on what I believe makes a good sex scene.\u00a0 This follows the comments and messages I received after Monday\u2019s blog. Before I start, I am not setting myself up as some sort of great authority on the subject.\u00a0 These are just my thoughts and opinions, that have come from the four years I have worked for Ric at BVS, reading reams of scripts, and the romance and erotic romance books I have read over the years.<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

I mentioned on Monday that I didn\u2019t like a lot of the sex scenes that I had read, that had been written by men.\u00a0 I think women write more honestly, using their own experience, fears, concerns and desires in their writing.\u00a0 When thinking of your characters, it makes no difference whether they are male and female, both women, or both men. As I write this I am thinking male-female but written through her experience. One common problem is head-hopping, I find that annoying in a sex scene.\u00a0 Pick the character who will have the experience and stick with it. It is nice to hear what both parties feel about sex. But you can show that through the observations and feelings of the character you are writing through.<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

When you read a good erotic scene, the sexual tension has been building for a page, a chapter, maybe the whole story before they get to the bedroom. The build-up can be a wonderful dance of tease and denial, making your mind ponder whether they will actually get it together. It is in that stave before they get intimate, that you can explore the emotions of the characters. Draw on the things that work for you.\u00a0 It is not like a quickie in a dark room; the lights are on, you look into your lover\u2019s eyes. You take in every detail of how they are dressed. Your characters are vulnerable; nobody wants to make an advance in case they are rebuffed and feel stupid, so they are looking for signs of arousal, a blush on the cheeks, the swell of lips, and most especially eye contact. You can tell that your lover wants you by the look in their eyes.\u00a0 Explore the subtle looks, observations of body language, as you build the sexual tension. I think of it as the slow swelling of emotions, rather than a dash for the finish line. She may feel insecure, most of us worry about our bodies.\u00a0 These are all barriers to slowly pull down before you get to the removal of any clothing.<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

Your reader will enjoy the tease of your heroine looking at her lover\u2019s chest seeing the contours through the thin material, the hint of erect nipples, the swell of fabric as your lover breathes. As they move together, she is held captive by the smoldering look in her lover\u2019s eyes. She knows, feels, how much her lover wants her, needs her. An especially teasing writer might cause them to break at this point, an interruption, a nagging doubt? This might take you back to step one, and the build-up starts again. If not the scene continues, and at this point, there is no doubt, that the lovers want each other.<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

The sex itself, try to keep it believable. Sex can be slow and sensual, or urgent and demanding, from either side. When making love most men don\u2019t last hours, but even after they finish the scene can continue with tongues fingers and sex toys.\u00a0 Or the act itself can be prolonged with foreplay, sex toys, even sex games and exploring fantasies. \u00a0I like to see it as consensual lovemaking in a romantic setting.\u00a0 For sure there are other types of scenes, and they have other agendas. Have fun and explore, be creative.\u00a0 Your readers will love you for it.<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

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I may have irritated or upset some male authors with Monday\u2019s blog, that was not my intention.\u00a0 If I did please accept my apologies.\u00a0 I was simply expressing my views about some male writers.\u00a0 Some men write great sex scenes as I did say in my original blog.\u00a0 I took a couple of days off […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":4085,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"nf_dc_page":"","om_disable_all_campaigns":false,"_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[18,1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-4084","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","category-reading","category-uncategorized","entry"],"jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_featured_media_url":"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/blackvelvetseductions.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/Screen-Shot-2020-03-22-at-3.25.28-AM.png?fit=1362%2C554&ssl=1","_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/blackvelvetseductions.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4084","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/blackvelvetseductions.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/blackvelvetseductions.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blackvelvetseductions.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blackvelvetseductions.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=4084"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/blackvelvetseductions.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4084\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":4086,"href":"https:\/\/blackvelvetseductions.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4084\/revisions\/4086"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blackvelvetseductions.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/4085"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/blackvelvetseductions.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=4084"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blackvelvetseductions.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=4084"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blackvelvetseductions.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=4084"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}